Pain Relief from Kindness and Laughter

 

 

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Have you ever suffered from searing pain that…

  • drained the blood from your body and almost made you pass out?
  • kept you up all night?
  • made you feel depressed, hopeless, and scared that it will never get better?

It was exactly this time of the year last year that I was living in this nightmare. A year ago, I couldn’t walk without being in excruciating pain. Simple activities such as sitting, standing, and sleeping made me anxious and worried from the unexpected shooting pain. Both unfortunately and fortunately this painful episode lasted for about one month. While it was unfortunate that I experienced intense pain, it was fortunate that I saw a glimpse of what life was like for people living with chronic pain and importantly able to see firsthand the healing power of two unlikely techniques— an act of kindness and an act of laughter.


Dismal with Disability

What led to my temporary disability is still unknown to me.  I was in great shape last year! I had a personal trainer and worked hard at keeping my weight within a reasonable range. I felt good about myself, I had great energy, and I enjoyed seeing my favorite clothes falling nicely in areas that they were supposed to. To this day, I cannot pinpoint the very moment when it started. Over and over I asked myself.

Was it working out too hard and not stretching long enough?

Was it the way I slept?

Was it my new high heels I wore to match my holiday dress?

 Who knows? All I know was I was in pain and I felt miserable!


The Pain

I always took pride in having a high tolerance for pain but this one was nothing like I’ve ever experienced. I thought I knew what pain was. I’ve had plantar fasciitis on both feet as I worked 12 hour shifts as a nurse. I’ve had shooting sciatica pain from my pregnancies that would have me gripping the furniture or walls around me so I didn’t fall down. Lastly, I endured natural deliveries twice because my childbirth labor always came fast. But this holiday pain felt like a perfect storm of angry sciatica pain, tight hamstring muscles and back pain. The jolt of spasm would catch me so unexpectedly that I would gasp with pain and feel cold, sweaty, and pale from a head rush of blood, making me feel as though I was going to pass out.


Natural Cures

Although I am a nurse, I always went for natural cures before going to the doctors. Years of learning over a dozen proven Complementary Alternative Medicine techniques and Positive Psychology provided me with an array of modalities and techniques to try. I tried everything I had in my natural tool-box such as: Reiki, hot and cold compresses, muscle rubs, homeopathy, and magnets. I went for weekly chiropractic adjustments and deep tissue massages. Little by little I started to feel better but my recovery didn’t start to sky rocket until I did something different. That something different was doing something for someone else. I found that doing something good for someone else help me stop ruminating on my self-pity and suffering. It helped me think of someone else who I cared about and this made me feel better and better.


Doing Good to Feel Good

One day during my one of my more painful afternoons, I decided to do something to get my mind off my pain. I decided to contact an old friend, who had been going through a divorce. Because we had not been in contact for awhile I wasn’t sure how he was doing. When I did reach him, I told him that I was going to give him a special present that I called “7 Days of Cheer.” I explained to him that I was going to send him one pun per day for a week. Knowing that he was very busy, sending him daily puns was a great way for him to know I was thinking him and wishing him well. He agreed to play along and I started. Every day, I looked for puns that I loved; ones that made me laugh so hard that I couldn’t wait but send to him. The puns were silly but hilarious.


Happy Inside and Out

I loved reading the puns during the day because they made me feel happy inside and out. This new found idea was exciting and made me feel good. Each day I looked forward to finding just the perfect pun to send him. The more I sent him, the more I noticed I felt better and better. I noticed something profound that I had been teaching all along in my stress management and wellness workshops for busy professionals.  I noticed that doing kind deeds for someone else does boost your own happiness, decrease feelings of depression, and reduces pain levels.  Further, I noticed the very same thing with laughter as well. As a laughter yoga teacher for professionals, seniors, and cancer survivors, I knew that laughter also provides the same positive benefits. I was amazed at how laughing and doing kind deeds helped reduce my pain.

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Positivity for Pain Relief

Acts of kindness and laughter, although a very unlikely pairing, provide powerful doses of positivity that are sure to help with pain relief. Our natural pain killer hormones called endorphins are secreted within our brain and nervous system when acts of kindness  are done and with deep hearty laughter. Endorphins, our bodies’ natural pain killers, are similar to morphine that is prescribed by doctors for severe pain. What seemed like a great idea to distract me from pain while cheering up a good friend, quickly became a main source of pain relief. It was as if my inner physician knew what I needed to help me feel better, and I am grateful that I listened to her. It was no surprised that his 7-day gift became a 14-day gift. Not only did my friend enjoy my gift, I was able to experience the pain relief that both kindness and laughter had to offer. It was a holiday that I will always remember.


More on Kindness and Laughter

Both acts of kindness and laughter have much in common. They are known to:

  • decrease pain
  • boost levels of happiness
  • decrease levels of anxiety
  • lead to faster healing


Gifting the “7 Days of Cheer”

Are you or someone you know suffering from any sort of physical, mental, or emotional pain?

Would you like to try something that doesn’t cost anything except your time and energy to feel better?

Are you interested in applying simple techniques that can make you feel better whether or not you are suffering from pain?

I invite you to try the “7 Days of Cheer” with anyone of your family or friends. It’s a fun and unique way to feel good as you do something good for someone. It’s truly a gift that keeps on giving.

Here’s how you can start.

  1. Pick a family member or friend that you want to give a special gift to.
  2. Contact that person and let him or her know about what you want to do.
  3. Decide on the length of time you want to do it.
  4. Use the internet for funny images, quotes, or video clips.
  5. Begin.
  6. Notice how you feel.
  7. Repeat as necessary.
  8. Have fun.

Next time you feel miserable from physical, mental, or emotional pain try taking care of it by doing something positive for someone else. It will help you to put a stop to focusing on what feels bad and instead direct you towards what feels good. Remember that your body has the capacity to help you feel better by releasing natural feel-good hormones.

Got other natural and proven ways to reduce pain? Please comment below and share it with us.

Forgiveness is…

This week I had the pleasure of teaching about forgiveness in my mindfulness class with 5th and 6th graders. I was amazed at how well they understood the concept of forgiveness and the way they approached hurtful incidences. While some said they cried and talked about it, others used sheer determination to prove the other person wrong, and the rest confronted the others and stood up for themselves. The common thread that I noticed in the 3 approaches was the courageous and self-compassionate choices that were taken to let go of their pain.

 

Let’s Learn from the Kids

Whether through tears or talking, the kids naturally had a way of taking action to feel better.  We can learn so much from them. We adults tend to have such a difficult time at forgiveness that it’s costing us our mental and physical health.  According to the 2011 study in the Journal of Behavioral Medicine, people who hold on to hard feelings have been shown to live a shorter life compared with those who make the choice to forgive. As a stubborn and proud person, I know that I am not perfect and can hold on to a hurt feeling like there’s no tomorrow. What I’ve came to realize, though, was that I was the one suffering and not the other way around. I was the one losing sleep, waking up with bags under my eyes, feeling cranky, and being miserable all day. It was I who was using this pain as an excuse to sabotage my diet or to use this ugly state to pick on the little things that I would normally tolerate. Practicing self-compassion has helped me tremendously. It’s helped me heal old wounds and made me healthier and happier.

 

Permission to be Human

As mentioned in previous newsletters I am certified in Positive Psychology, the science of happiness. One of the greatest techniques that I learned while studying this amazing field is self-compassion. Self-compassion has a way of helping us feel the pain while also giving ourselves a break. Self-compassion doesn’t mean that we are weak and the other is strong. It doesn’t mean that we don’t feel any pain—it’s quite the opposite. Self-compassion is all about awareness, forgiveness, and self-love. It gives us the time to make the best choice that will make us feel better. It also reminds us that we have the choice to take the control back into our lives by letting go of what no longer serves us.

 

Forgiveness


Forgiveness is the Best Call to Make

While forgiveness may not be the easiest thing for many of us to do, it is important to remember that it can possibly be one of the best acts of kindness and love that you can do for yourself. In other words, forgiveness is a choice that can set you free — it is the best call that you will make to become healthier and happier. Nobody can do this work for you. This is something that you and you alone must do to become happy.

 

Healthy Dose of Forgiveness

Just think about how much brighter and beautiful our world would be if people took a healthy dose of forgiveness daily. I bet that if people were to commit to a daily practice of forgiveness many pharmaceutical companies would be put out of business and doctors’ visits would go down drastically. Basically, forgiveness can put more money into your pocket and add more years to your life. Still not convinced? Here are some facts about people who tend to hold on to grudges. They tend to have higher:

  • Blood pressure
  • Facial muscle tension
  • Heart rate
  • Sweating
  • Anxiety
  • Anger
  • Loss of control
  • Fatigue
  • Insomnia

 

The Call is Yours

In a nutshell, the call is yours to make when it when it comes to forgiveness. Hopefully, I’ve shown you that holding onto grudges is detrimental to your health. Let’s start learning from the kids and not hold onto the grudges so that we can feel better right away.

 

Try this!

Next time you feel this frustrating feeling come on, try the following:

  1. Take a deep breath
  2. Go for a walk
  3. Allow yourself to feel the hurt
  4. Notice what your body is doing
  5. Say to yourself, “Permission to be human.”
  6. Repeat 1-5 until you feel better.

 

Remember to love yourself enough to make this courageous and self-compassionate choice.

Need help?

If you need coaching to help you with forgiveness and self-compassion, contact me at info@ultimatehealingjourney.com so we can work together to get you to your winning state of mind.

 

The Secret Sauce to Resilience is…

I recently presented at the Cancer Support Community, MA South Shore, on a topic that is rarely talked about during the cancer journey: Gratitude. While it’s understandable that there is absolutely nothing to be thankful for when you or someone you know has cancer, there are ways to use this virtue to help you feel more victorious.

In the presentation, I shared a story about my mother’s cancer journey with breast cancer, endometrial cancer and lung cancer. A journey that never crossed her mind before because she had no family history of such cancers and had always made healthy choices in what she ate and did. My mother is still the healthiest person I know despite the cancers that she had.

Gratitude is the Secret Sauce to Resilience

2013 was the year that my mother celebrated being breast cancer free for 5 years, only to find out two months later that she had endometrial and lung cancer. Needless to say, 2013 and 2014 were the most difficult years of my mother’s life. Despite the fact that she remained strong in front of everyone, this was the period in her life that tested her spirituality and optimism. The only consistent practice besides prayer that she did to feel better was to be grateful for her many micro-moments of progress towards being cured; she said “thank you” in almost every other sentence. It was like breathing to her. She looked for any signs of progress—big or small—celebrated them, appreciated them. In other words, she mindfully used gratitude to feel better. Dr. Les Kertay was right when he said that, “The secret sauce to resilience is gratitude.” My mother uses the practice of gratitude as a way of feeling healthy and happy every single moment.

The Good Things during the Bad Times

My mother made her goals practical and simple. For many months they were: to feel good enough to move without anyone’s help, to sleep without bone pain, to taste her food, and to have her hair grow back so that she can look like a woman again in front of us (especially my father). It wasn’t until that time that I saw the power of gratitude fueling someone’s resilience and ability to feel good during bad times. Normalcy was what she strived for and not perfection.

How to Turn Your “Grrrr” Moments into “Grateful” Micro Moments

Not everyone is like my mother, who can find the good even during the tough times. She said “thank you” in almost every other sentence. While it was as easy as breathing to her, the great news is that anyone can learn gratitude. It’s a skill that requires repetition and a routine. According to researchers, the best way to cultivate a positive habit is to practice, practice, practice!

Here’s how to get started:

  1. Days – Try it for 7 days. If you find you like this practice continue for 2-3 more weeks
  2. Decide- What time will you be doing it? Pick a daily routine to practice gratitude.
  3. Document- Write your gratitude down on a pad of paper.
  4. Deed- Do a good deed and pass on your good and grateful vibe.

Try it and see how you like it. If you or someone you know are a cancer survivor or caregiver and need coaching on practical and proven ways to increase levels of optimism and resilience, contact Debbie Lyn at info@ultimatehealingjourney.com

Let’s get physical

 

Healthy and Happy March to you!

I don’t know about you but I am so excited that this new month has finally arrived. It’s been such a cold and snowy winter in the Boston area that it seems like everyone, including me, has gotten “cabin fever.” It really made me appreciate the warmth of the sun and being outside for just a few minutes so I could clear my winter blues away.

Physical activity can boost our mood

Did you know that experts say that doing any physical activity can actually help boost your mood? It’s true and it does work. Every time I would start feeling low or down, I would start doing a physical activity such as de-cluttering my workspace, walking to the post office, or even walking on the beach. Of course your physical activity (notice I am not saying the “e” word that ends with “cise”) will depend on your health and activity tolerance.

An inspiration

I coached a group from the Boston Senior Home Care’s Stronger for Life Program recently and they were a wonderful inspiration to me! They are so determined to reach their goals to lose weight and to increase their endurance. They do their physical routine in their apartments, hallways, and stairs. They did not let the cold harsh winter ruin their goals of becoming stronger for life.

What an inspiration they were!

As for me, walking around my neighborhood, shoveling, making snowmen has become my winter sport. I’ve also found snowshoeing to be a wonderful way of getting out and having fun in the cold weather.

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How about you?

What have you been doing this winter to help you lift your spirits? Please share it with us. Just remember, anytime you start feeling the blues coming on, it’s always best to recognize it so that you can make the choice to shift from that state to be better one. What better way to make a positive shift than to start getting…physical. Have fun!

Need coaching?

Have you been feeling stuck and stressed not knowing what to do to move closer to your dreams and goals?

Has there been a goal that you have been wanting to achieve but just don’t know how to start?

Are you finally ready to serve your own needs instead of others for a change?

Contact me at info@ultimatehealingjourney.com so  we can get you moving towards the direction of your dreams.

 

Bueller…Bueller…Bueller!

 

Happy February, and I hope that 2015 is being kind and gentle to you.

Here in Massachusetts, we have just been visited by Juno, the blizzard that gave us over 30 inches of snow. My teenager and 4th grader have been celebrating their “no school” days. Do you remember being young and finding out that there was no school that day because of severe weather conditions? Those were the days when we got a “free day off” from our usual routine. Ahh…

I think that we, as adults, deserve to give ourselves a “Ferris Bueller’s day off” day to just kick back, relax, and be care-free.

When was the last time that you did this for yourself?
How did you feel when you did it?
What did you do that made it fun and fantastic for you?

“Life moves pretty fast.” ~ F. Bueller

Yes, I know that you’re busy, but who isn’t these days? It’s all the more reason why we need to take off our ‘grown-up’ hat and just be a kid again! It’s one of the ways we can slow down to enjoy life! Work will always be there and our schedules will always be full of activities. It’s important to be more proactive in setting aside time for ourselves for self care. We need a mental break so that we don’t have a “mental breakdown.”

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Here’s your “hall pass.”

Many people get so stuck on the hamster wheel of their work-life schedule that they forget that they have the choice to get off it. So, here’s my suggestion for you. Create a virtual “hall pass” for yourself to get out and do something that you love. You don’t have to have someone with you do to this. In fact, it might be better for you to just go ahead and take your “pass” and run with it without having to think and talk yourself out of it.

You get an A+

You will find that when you do this, you will want to do it regularly. Why not? It’s very important that you work yourself into your own unique schedule in order to truly have the productivity, positivity, and prosperity that you strive for. Routinely giving yourself much needed time off from life is a self-loving and self-nurturing way of ensuring that you do live a healthy and happy life. In other words, giving yourself permission to enjoy life will result in more success in both work and life than you can ever imagine. You will get an A+ for the effort that you put into this routine break. Danke Schoen! <wink>

If you need support in ways to help you reset time so that it’s on your side in order to live a healthy and happy life please contact me at info@ultimatehealingjourney.com

Thank Your Stress Away

Hello there!

Here’s a quick guide to use anytime you feel stressed throughout the day.

My mother’s recovery from her double cancer surgery inspired me to create this technique.  Two years ago—just about one month after celebrating being breast cancer free for 5 years—my mother was diagnosed with endometrial cancer and lung cancer. It was one of the worst years of my life, seeing my mother undergo so much physical and emotional stress from her diagnosis and myriad of hospital tests and surgeries.

As a nurse, I knew how extensive and painful her surgeries were going to be. As a daughter, I was afraid of losing my mother and worried about my father who always relied on my mother. While I did my best to be supportive and strong, “the nurse,” for the rest of my family and relatives, I had moments where I would just break down and cry. Ironically, that year the source of my strength, besides God, was my mother. I felt so much better every time I saw my mother. I recall how she would laugh at herself when her hair was growing back and I remember the countless of times I heard my mother say “thank you.” One of the most memorable times that we as a family said “thank you” was when she got the results from her endometrial, lung, and thyroid biopsy (yup, they found a suspicious area there too) that all of her cancers were not related. This meant that they were not a metastasis from her breast cancer.

During each of her surgeries that summer, I would hear her say, “thank you” when she woke up and was able to get up from her bed by herself. She would say “thank you” when she would have enough strength to walk from her bed to the bathroom all by herself. She would say “thank you” when she had a restful night of sleep without bone pain that was caused from her chemotherapy. Her days were (and still are) filled with thankful moments from morning to night. She uses gratitude to fuel every action and every thought.

My mother naturally used gratitude as a way to become resilient and to thrive after that long, hard summer.

Next time you feel stressed or scared, try this technique that I call, Thank Your Stress Away.

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I hope you enjoyed this technique. Please share it with friends who might benefit from it.

Need extra support in managing your work-life stress? Contact me at info@ultimatehealingjourney.com.

Cheers!

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Your G.I.F.T.

“Have you been running around like crazy these last few weeks trying to get ready for the holiday season? “

And has that stress been making your feel overwhelmed and exhausted? I know the feeling. I’ve been there and so have hundreds of other people trying to make this season special for everyone but themselves.

I will keep this short because I know you are busy. I want to offer you a priceless present that will surely help you enjoy and savor this season. Here it is and it’s called G.I.F.T.

G.I.F.T. stands for “Get In Free Time.”

Try using this G.I.F.T. technique today to see just how much it will make you feel more focused, clear, and energized. Trying any one of the G.I.F.T. techniques will bring you so much cheer that you will want to keep doing it all the time.

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“Don’t have time to do this you say?”

Think again! “Free time” doesn’t have to be an all day affair, although it would really be nice it if were. It’s true that when it comes to time the more the merrier matters, but let’s be practical here.

The best way to get “free time” is by accessing it in small burst during the day or even during the week. This moment of time can be as little as 5 minutes or up to 30 minutes. Be imaginative and spontaneous when you do this. Remember, the whole idea behind this is to add yourself to your busy schedule so that you feel more refreshed, relaxed, and rejuvenated during the day.

“Yes, it is possible!”

Of course it is possible. I do this all the time and it has become one of my most priceless holiday traditions.  Not only does it give me a boost of energy and excitement, it also helps reduce my stress because I am able to have fun.  This technique has helped me become more productive and effective giving me more time to do more for myself at the end of the day.

This technique is a great one to help bring the little child out in me and has helped me believe even more in the magic and miracles that are all around us at this time of the year.

Here are my top 10 suggestions in how you can start enjoying your G.I.F.T. :

  1. Go for a nature walk.
  2. Grab a cup of tea and “people watch.”
  3. Start (or finish) a book that you’ve been meaning to read.
  4. Call up an old friend and make a “play date.”
  5. Buy yourself a special treat from the bakery and savor each bite.
  6. Eat a meal without doing anything else. Savor the flavor.
  7. Take a nap.
  8. Meditate
  9. Reflect on your achievements and aha moments this past year.
  10. Book a massage for yourself as soon as possible.

Have fun and pick one of these suggested techniques today to begin making this holiday season one of your best ones ever. Enjoy your gift of precious moments. You deserve it!

If you need coaching to help you find ways to add yourself consistently to your busy day contact me at info@ultimatehealingjourney.com today. Or Visit www.ultimatehealingjourney.com to learn how you can achieve the goals that you want.

Balancing Your Work and Home Life: Achieving Higher Enlightenment

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If you suffer from stress, depression, anxiety or even high blood pressure, then you will understand the importance of just being able to relax. Many people try to multi-task too much in their daily lives, thinking that they can achieve more by doing so. This simply isn’t the case and multi-tasking often leads to errors which take even more time to correct. This makes us frustrated and angry, which is often taken out on family and friends. By taking the time to relax for just a few minutes, we realize that our lives don’t revolve around how many things we can do per day, and that by simply concentrating on one thing at once, we can achieve more than we ever thought possible.

Acting Out Of Character

Stress can certainly make us act out of character, especially when you’re stressed because you can’t perform an action on time or at the same time as something else. Your child may interrupt you to ask a question, to which you shout in response. This creates a negative atmosphere for everyone.

Creating a Better Balance

If you want to create a better work-home balance, take a step back and analyze the things you need to do that day. For example, if you need to do the washing and take the kids to school, find a way that you can do both without necessarily multi-tasking.  Start off the washing machine before you go in the morning, and dry them when you get back from your commute. You will have time by yourself to do the washing properly and in good time, and you will also have time to relax between loads. You’ll be doing one thing at a time, but you’ll still get the same amount done per day. This can really make a difference to your life, and by not multi-tasking. You’ll find that you won’t get as stressed, meaning that you can achieve more per day!

Can you think of some simple steps right now that you can do to create more balance in your life? Start with that first thing that you think of.

If can’t think of any right now, here are 3 tips to get you started.

They are:

  1. Divide and conquer- Delegate the tasks that others can do for you. Remember that you are not alone. Decide on one or two tasks that others can do easily and do not require your immediate attention. According to the July 26, 2012 Harvard Business Review, article written by Amy Gallo called, “Why aren’t you delegating” even though delegating tasks is an important skill for leaders and managers, not everyone is doing it—it is underutilized. While most feel they are too busy to ask, some are not trained to think and ask the right questions to ask for help.
  2. Go the distance- Deliberately go out of your way. Many people who are too busy during the day with work and life are way too busy to exercise. The best way to get in some physical activities is by going out of your way. Purposely park in the far end corner of the parking lot and walk or use the stairs instead of the elevators. According to an article called “Exercise and Stress. Get Moving to Manage Stress” by the Mayo Clinic, any form of physical activity can help reduce stress. This reduction is caused by the release of hormone called endorphin. The very hormone that gets released when runners experience the “runner’s high” when running.
  3. Distraction- Clear off your desk, your inbox, or even the noise around you. Distraction leads to wasted time trying to get back on task which can create more feelings of stress, overwhelm and imbalance. According the June 22, 2008 New York Times article, “Fighting a War Against Distraction,” it takes almost 20 minutes to get back on track after being distracted for one minute.

Just know that it is very possible to add more balance in your life. If you need support and coaching on ways to gain more balance in your work-life, contact me at info@ultimatehealingjourney.com for ways we can work together.

Permission to be Human



Are you like me, someone who wasted way too much time, money, and energy trying to be perfect?

For awhile, I played the “blame game;” I blamed it on the way I was raised, my culture, and the media. Eventually I stopped entertaining those notions and woke up to who I really was. What happened next was life changing! The same voice that repeated the “self-pity” story stopped and changed its title to “self-love”.

I got tired of listening to my own “poor me” story and wanted a new one, the one that sounded something like… “Who the heck cares, you are special and it’s time to explore that!”

In other words, my inner voice demanded that I stop trying to be what I wasn’t and just be Debbie.

What an eye opener!

Instead of looking for something to make me feel or look perfect, I began to search within to find my answers. Like one of my great-great-great grandfathers who was an Italian voyager, I embarked on my own expedition in search of gifts and treasures that were unique— things rare and “awesome.” Unlike him, who ended up falling in love with a tribe leader’s daughter in Cebu (one of the Islands of Philippines), on my journey, I ended up falling in love with me, myself, and I.

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Yes, I can easily say that I am in love with myself and the kind of person that I’ve become.

The “I’m not good enough” has become “not so bad” or even “Wow, oh yeah!”

Now this love affair, like any other, has its ups and downs because “life happens” and the old “poor me” story seem to show up so much quicker than the “you got this” one. But what I can tell you is that there is nothing like having the self-compassion towards yourself to caress and push you through tough times. Having self-compassion for myself has taught me to give myself “permission to be human,” a phrase that I learned from my Positive Psychology teacher and previous Harvard Professor, Tal Ben Sha-Har Ph.D. It has also given me the courage to stop trying to be perfect.

I learned so much about myself on this road of discovery that it inspired my signature program, The Path to Being A.W.E.S.O.M.E™ (authenticity, wonderment, empowerment, self-compassion, optimism, mindfulness, & enjoyment) to help today’s women discover, define and declare who they are so that they can live their best life with greater ease and grace.

Researcher Kristen Neff Ph.D. stated in her book Self-Compassion, “Self-compassion provides an island of calm, a refuge from the stormy seas of endless positive and negative self-judgment, so that we can finally stop asking, ‘Am I as good as they are? Am I good enough?’” Further she said, “By tapping into our inner well-springs of kindness, acknowledging the shared nature of our imperfect human condition, we can start to feel more secure, accepted, and alive.” She said that in many ways, self-compassion is like magic due to its ability to turn suffering into joy.

How about you?

Are you ready to get to know and fall in love like me and allow more self-compassion into your life?
Here are two ways to begin your path to self-compassion so that you can stop trying to be perfect and start being your awesome self.

1. Write done your strengths. To find out what they are, ask yourself what you are naturally good at and love learning more about? Those are your strengths. Write down as many as you can and look at them often. Celebrate them and do more and more activities that make them even stronger.

2. When you make an “oops” recognize it, breath, and give yourself “permission to be human.” Mistakes are golden learning moments that made us even better at what we do. Failures or mistakes are important to learn from. I bet you didn’t know that when Edison was trying to invent the light bulb, it took him almost 1,000 tries until he created it. When a reporter asked him about the 1,000 mistakes, Edison replied that he did not fail 1,000 times, but rather he successfully learned 1,000 ways not to make a light bulb.

Enjoy these practices and I hope that they can save you valuable time, money, and energy so that you can enjoy being your awesome self instead of trying to be perfect.

If you need support and coaching on how to stop trying to be perfect and start being your awesome self and want to learn to cultivate more self-compassion, contact me at info@ultimatehealingjourney.com today. To learn more about The Path to Being A.W.E.S.O.M.E™ Program and the list of my services, visit www.ultimatehealingjourney.com
I’ll see you there. Until then, much love to you.

This is Debbie Lyn Toomey your Health and Happiness Specialist™ wishing you an awesome day.